Tool: Add support, resources, and backup

Gather in your support people. If you don't have any, then go find some, re-connect with friends and family you've not had contact with for awhile.

Add resources. Go search online for information, read books recommended by me or someone you have reason to believe might know a good one when they see it. Hire a coach or a therapist.

Add reserves. Have more than enough of what you need, time, money, rest, sleep, good food, clean air, pleasure. Begin where you are and build it in.

Have someone who can help if you need help. Someone to call if you're stranded. Carry pepper spray, get a cell phone for the car and your bedside. Add dead bolt locks and window locks to your house, even on upper floors, so you can open the window a little for ventilation and know it's not making you vulnerable to do so. Get towing insurance, have money hidden in the car so if you ran out you'd have a backup.

It frees you up, makes you spend less of your emotional energy on feeling at the end of your resources, it reduces vulnerability, which drains personal energy. And it tells you that you care about you, that you'll take good care of you. It's a message you've been needing to hear for a long time.

Be very nice to you. You deserve the very best. Give it to you.